How To Introduce Your Atheist Partner To Evangelical Parents

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Discussion by: The Unicorn Delusion
So, I found this video on howcast, and it made me laugh. I though some of you guys may enjoy it, so here:

http://www.howcast.com/videos/9347-How-to-Introduce-Your-Atheist-Partner-to-Your-Evangelical-Parents
So… Discuss meeting your partners religious parents, I guess?

9 COMMENTS

  1. Well, yikes. Apparently atheists at Howcast are obsessed with fire and have no interpersonal savvy. (And evangelists wear HUGE crosses).

    In those times that I’ve met religious or conservative relations of a partner, my first objective was to keep things light and find common ground, which really isn’t that hard to do.

    Only after we’ve established that we each think the other is alright despite any differences of opinion or ideology will the funny questions come out, such as “Why do atheists engage in this peculiar behavior” or “How can an atheist reconcile this particular factoid” And I can address it, usually referring to the atheist community, and noting what is the common consensus and what is my separate opinion.

    The usual outcome is that, yeah, we aren’t so dissimilar after all.

  2. I could ask my ex how she planned introducing her rabidly republican boyfriend (me) to her flower-child, very sixties hippy democrat parents. I imagine the comfort level was similar. It’s funny, I never had a moment’s thought about religion being right but I spent my entire adulthood until 2004 being a staunch asshole with less support for my positions than a priest has. My big life converstion was realizing that rugged individualism was a myth developed by ad executives to cover the fact that not caring about your fellow man is the one true evil.

  3. Frankly, the one time I had a girlfriend with religious parents, the subject of my religious views didn’t come up until 1.5 years after we had been introduced. They invited me to attend their service and I politely refused, stating my disagreement with the entire concept of religion.

    They were a lot colder with me for a while, but as Uriel already noted, we are not so dissimilar as we think and they came to realise this in time. I think the father even relished the opportunity to discuss religion with an atheist.

    Now religious partners… that’s a whole other story!

    • In reply to #3 by Sjoerd Westenborg:

      Frankly, the one time I had a girlfriend with religious parents, the subject of my religious views didn’t come up until 1.5 years after we had been introduced. They invited me to attend their service and I politely refused, stating my disagreement with the entire concept of religion.

      They were a lo…That’s funny because my mom also enjoys discussing religion with my boyfriend now, where they used to get pretty upset at each other. They even discuss biblical stuff they both find fascinating (for very different reasons lol). I’m an atheist too though, so it’s not like I’m that poor religious girl explaining the atheist boyfriend to the parents. We de converted at the same time.

  4. Silly video, making a cartoon of both sides. There are real issues that should be addressed, and none of them with wisecracks. Such as, what does the child of the evangelicals believe?. If she is still fence-sitting, the confrontation could turn out to be a gang-up against the atheist. It’s definitely a drag being the only atheist in the conversation and having to defend yourself against two militants and one accommodationist. If she is herself an atheist, perhaps a new one, then she has to settle THAT with her parents first.

  5. This is similar to introducing a same sex partner. The way to do it is to bring a bunch of atheists to dinner at Mom’s, but ask them to stay in the closet. Mom will become attached to them. When you finally spill the beans Mom will have cognitive dissonance.

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